SIF (Save Indian
Family) movement should speak through the Media Debates
We are in an
era of Media Trial. Media have been highlighting the Women’s point of view in a
big way and Men are shouted down when they try to put their point of view in
any TV debate. The Anchor in such cases is mostly a Lady, who poses to be a
votary to the cause of women. Damini gang rape, no doubt, was a horrific and
barbarous act and every one - men and women alike- voiced their feeling to
demand Capital punishment for the culprits. Men supported women in every way. India
is a democratic country. In a democracy the other person’s point of view is
equally important. This is the reason the Court gave a patient hearing to the
Lawyers of the accused and after granting full opportunity to both the sides to
put their case without fear the Court pronounced Capital punishment to the all
the accused. Thus justice was done to Damini. The juvenile accused however got
3 years in ‘Bal Sundhar Grih’ (Reform facility), which was the maximum
punishment for a juvenile as per the law of the land, which everybody felt was
a small punishment for such a dastardly act by the juvenile.
The Men’s
voice was echoed by the son of the President of India’s Abhijit Mukherjee, M.P.
who spoke to the Media echoing Men’s sentiments, which were harshly condemned
by the Women’s Organisations and he was made to eat his own words. His unconditional
apologies only could console the Women’s organisations. But by this time he had
spoken what he wanted to speak. The message had been flashed through the Media
to every corner of the country and the people, men and women alike were saying
that he had spoken the truth, but nobody dared to speak against the Women’s
Organisations in the Media. Certain things men cannot digest, for example
Women’s Organisations want Legal and social acceptance of pre-marital rape.
They also demand liberty to women to walk down the streets of the cities in
late night as well, as is allowed to the males. They demanded that it is the duty
of Sheila Dixit Government to provide security to the women walking in the
streets of Delhi at the dead of night. They tacitly advocate acceptance of western
culture, but they forget that in Western Countries when the boys and girls
attain majority, they are expected to lead their lives independently without
any thing to do with the parents. But in India, even today, it is the solemn
religious and moral duty of the parents to arrange and fully finance the
marriage of their son and daughters and prior to that fully finance and arrange
for their higher education even when they have become adult and also to try for
their proper employment. In return children are not ready to accept the
responsibility of looking after their old and ailing parents. They prefer being
nearer to their in-laws, because wives’ want greater association with their
parents. Thus instead of looking after the husband’s parents, they prefer to
look after their parents. If Women Organisations want social acceptance of
pre-marital sex, they should also ask the children to leave their parent’s
home, after attaining the age of majority, so that the money which the parents
spend in their marriage and higher studies becomes a good source of their
livelihood in their old age.
Sometimes
back I was watching a TV debate about Damini gang rape, in which a male Panelist
said that in Delhi rape cases are increasing. The reason is mostly liquor.
Hence something should be done to prohibit selling of liquor in the evening as
the rape cases normally take place after intoxication. Two Women Panelists
resented vociferously and made the Men Penalist to shut their mouths. The Women
Anchor hastily ignored this all and switched over to other Panelists. Awindra Pandey, friend of Damini who tried to
save her from the culprits was also ignored by the Women’s Organisations. Is it
that because he was a man?
In Damini
case, the then Chief Justice of India Justice_Altamas Kabir said that if he had
his say he would have gone to raise his voice in the agitation against Damini
rape. Woman Organisations would have taken a note of it. It is therefore
crystal clear that Men are equally worried about what is happening with the
women in our society. Everybody including Women Organisations feel that it is
the parents who can give moral education and ‘sanskar’ to their children. But
they forget that today the children are not under the control of their parents.
The boys demand a Mobile at the age 3 to 5 years and a Bike at the age of 10
years. Girls say that their parents are doing partiality with them and now they
also demand a Mobile and Scooty at a tender age. The parents are helpless. In
case their demand is not met, they would boycott food and threaten to commit
suicide. So parents somehow arrange for the money and give them what they want.
In some cases the children become a prey to the Bike accidents and leave their
parents to weep and repent throughout their life.
Now Rajya
Sabha has passed a Bill in which provision has been made to grant inheritance
right in the parental property of the husbands. Now the girls will get property
from three sources i.e. their father, husband and father-in-law. But they
forget normally husband’s purchase property in the name of their wives. They
also hand over their full salary or income to their wives and beg money from
their wives, from time to time, for their personal needs. Now they will be scared and would think
hundred times before handing over their full salary to them or purchasing
property in the name of their wives. Women Organisations feel that pre-marital
sex, divorce, Maintenance allowance etc. should be allowed to the women as a
matter of right for which Laws have already been framed. But they forget that
boys are badly being harassed, simply because they are males. Hence the latest
alternative which boys are brooding over is Live-in-relationship, which is
already in vogue in metros. Marrying a girl means you are bringing a ‘live time-bomb’
which may explode any time, because now a Lady can lodge an FIR from her husband’s
house through internet or mobile phones as well. They are not required even to
go to a Police Station. Their simple information through internet etc. would
authorise the Police to arrest the husband pending investigation. Women’s
Organisations also want Marital Rape as an offence. This all is hitting at the
very root of family system. They want a still more strict Section 498-A and
Dowry Act. They lament in such cases the conviction rate is only 2%. The fact
is most of the cases lodged against husbands are false. Naturally the
conviction rate has to be 2% or so. They are not ready to accept the men’s view
point. As a result of FIR by his wife a husband who had to go to Jail and
consequently gets bail prefers to lead a lonely life, instead of accepting the
lady to lead a marital life afresh. Not only that he prefers to go to Jail even
if found guilty instead of bringing the lady back to his home. Thus
the family system gets shattered. The girl also repents because normally she
finds no prospects of re-marriage in the present Indian society. But it is
already too late. By this time her age also grows, hence the chances of
re-marriage diminish further. The Women Organisations should think seriously as
to how to save the Indian Families. They should call SIF activists and hear
their point of view. We all agree that in rape cases, particularly in children
rape cases and gang rape cases capital punishment is a must, but in all other
cases we must think in terms of how the Indian Family System can be saved and
in case Women’s Organisations do not agree to this, divorce should become
easier, Section 498-A and Dowry Act like anti-men provisions should be out of
the Statute or should be diluted. These organisations should not be allowed to
cook the cake and eat it too. It is pertinent to mention that all Men are not
rapists. It is the Men who look after the women and do all sort of sacrifices
for them. The women, being kind hearted, respond to the Men in every way. The
fact is there is no existence of men without women and there is no existence of
women without men. Women Organisation should not make this matter ‘Men versus
Women’. They should not shout down or overpower men while speaking in a debate as
a Panelist. Women organisations should talk about all the rape cases which are
brought to them by the people or Media. A Police Lady Constable was raped in
Jharkhand in August last, while she was bringing the dead body of his relative
from Ranchi to Latehar about which there was not a single word from the Women
Organisations, why? The topic of the day is how to save Indian families? SIF
(Save Indian Family) a man’s organisation is doing good work in this direction.
The Government and the woman organisations should also take them into
confidence. The Government should also consider
whether time is ripe when a ‘Purush Ayog’ should also be established to look
after the grievances of men who suffer at the hands of woman? This will go a
long way in saving Indian Families. D.N.Barola, President, Press Club,
Ranikhet. Mobile No.9412909980
